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All Death is Suicide a Tribute to TDOR November 20, 2015

The world is indeed evolving and I am glad to be a part of it.  The subject for today’s blog is not new but it is also near and dear to my heart.  I repost this blog in honor of Transgender Day of Remembrance and to those who teach us the lesson of Love.  Remember to remain open to new ideas and never judge others for the path they choose.


Many believe that to be murdered was a choice the “murder” chose, thus believing in victims and perpetrators.  But what if these choices were made long before you were even born?  Our path is laid out for us and all we have to do is accept it or not.  Of course when you are born you pass through the veil of forgetting and thus do not remember the contracts you made in your life between lives.  There are ways to remember, but perhaps that is not the point.  Perhaps we are to learn to love those who would harm us and in doing so understand there is no one else.  All seeming “perps” are of our own creation.  Life is for the living and we do have choices. The choice is whether to accept your life as you have created it or not!  Another of my favorite quotes, “Resistance is futile” (The Borg, Star Trek)  Love is the answer, everything else are just excuses.  Consider the following quotes and make up your own mind.


“There is no such thing as an accident; everything that happens to you in every moment of every day is an exact vibrational match (thanks to the Law of Attraction) to the dominant thoughts you are thinking.


No exceptions, ever.


So as this applies to TDOR, fear is a self-fulfilling prophesy!  And, just to really throw the cat among the pigeons (as the saying goes), here is one of Abraham’s most controversial (but completely true) sayings…


All death is suicide.


…which is a natural conclusion anyway if there is no such thing as an accident.” Stingray


It seems that everything is a choice, even death!  This goes right down to the color of your eyes and your genetic structure.  Not that all choice is conscious.  These choices were made before you were born and through thoughts, words, and actions taken by you along the path.


“However, the fear of death is unnecessary.  The truth is that all death is suicide.  At its core, everything is a choice.  There is an awakening occurring on the planet for those who are paying attention in which we are realizing how much choice we actually have in the creation of our reality.  As we accept our power we must let go of the desire to be accepted or understood by those who are stuck in mainstream thought.  This willingness to transcend the fears of others and become a pioneer is crucial to personal evolution.

In life, a central challenge is to let go of the idea that your body is decaying with time.  It is not.  It is actually recreating itself constantly.”


“In the Conversations with God Series by Neale Donald Walsh, God says that all death is suicide, and it is just a matter of whether we want to do it quickly, or over time with eating bad food, breathing polluted air, smoking, drinking etc. If someone is in pain, God does not want one to suffer, and does not blame someone for leaving their body quickly. If someone was to love you so much they would understand that, to keep you is selfish, everyone is sad when someone dies, not because so much they think something bad happened to them, but they cry for themselves, that what they want is no longer with them. Take this story for instance I was so in love with this guy, we lived together for a year, but I noticed he would go in the bedroom all sad and close the door sometimes. I found out he was looking at pictures of his kids he loved so much and his wife he was still in love with. I planned it out and talked him into moving to the city where his children and ex lived, and when we got there I said this is where I drop you off, I am moving on. I loved him enough to let him go and try to work things out with his wife and to be there for his children. Now, that is love.”  Kathy Miller

Remember that every thought, word, and action leads to your experience in this world and ultimately to your fate.  We are guided by higher powers, no matter how you think of them, Divine Being, God, or Higher Self.  Listen to this guidance and you will make it through the maze of life to the Promised Land.  There is no right or wrong way home.  And there are no Victims, only Volunteers!

:-) Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity



Temet Nosce November 1, 2015

Filed under: Spirituality,Transitions — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 7:22 am
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Mother came to me last night in a dream and reminded me the importance of Love. My purpose here is to teach/learn that love is all there is and being separate from this love is just not possible. We might as well try to ignore the air we breath. Being without love is like being without air. The body will die without air to breath. Just like air can be infused into water if we adjust to its frequency it sustains us. Gills are used for this purpose to breath under water and you can be a gill for love in this world. I am. I am matching my frequency to love and converting this to a form which is natural for you. Accept my love. Know that we are One. Feel the love which you are… “to thy own self be true”… “Temet Nosce” (Know Thyself).

If you have not read the book, “Sex and Sexuality” then I offer it to you now. This book further explains what I have just explained above. The book uses my own life to illustrate this journey of love. It is a free download from So instead of making this a long blog I will end right here and leave you with the option to read on!


It’s Not About Surgery October 9, 2015

Anyone in the Transgender community knows what the treatment for Gender Dysphoria is.  As stated by WPATH, Treatment for gender dysphoria varies with severity of symptoms, but may include counseling, crossdressing, contra-hormone therapy, and surgery.  Here is an article which explains the nuances quite well.  It is so very important to emphasize the counseling rather than the surgery in my opinion for several reasons.  This obviously will be different for each person, so take this with a grain of salt.

The Transgender journey to me is all about acceptance, both of who you are and what you have to work with.  So if someone goes out and modifies their appearance and/or function (SRS/GRS) does this really change who they are?  This may or may not help to alleviate the perceptions of the individual and those who meet this transgender individual.  From my experience, invasive treatment is really beside the point and offers nothing more than something to compare with.  Meaning, you have a different presentation and perhaps this feels good at first, but after a while you realize it just doesn’t matter.  The roles you play are different, but you are still that same person at the core (with the same mental/emotional issues).  Let’s face it, we are all playing roles in society and these roles seem to define us, but do they really? Does the fact that you are working as a mechanic or a mother or a manager really make you who you are?  Or is it the other way around?  You define the roles!  At least this is the way it should be in my opinion.  So by defining a role you decide if women are good mechanics or if hair dressers are bitchy.  You; not your gender defines the role.

So the transition journey is really about coming to an acceptance of who you are or to say it more simply, liking yourself!   We all go through this process and transgender people have just chosen to do it by way of gender.  Substance abuse is another way to “find yourself” and come to an acceptance.  There are many challenges we each unconsciously choose as our own method of spiritual growth!  You are probably engaged in this process right now in your own way.  The good news is no matter which path you choose the Universe conspires to make it the most productive learning lesson it can be.

We each define our own parameters for what is acceptable to a certain extent; however we are each a part of the whole and society is one aspect of that whole.  So why do we allow society to dictate these parameters?  Because we are part of the whole!  So then it becomes a matter of conformity.  I find it interesting that most people consider themselves non-conformists, but they are still a part of society and in their own way conforming to the greater whole (myself included).  It is my understanding that we each make up one part of this whole and that we are each different.

So why not just be this different person and stop trying to conform to a perceived reality?  This is in fact my vow, to be myself and be happy with who I am.  Yes, I was born male and yes I feel most comfortable in women’s clothing, so what?  I am attracted to loving people, not to body parts.  I wish to be loved just like everyone else!  And I wish to be that loving person within my own comfort zone, which with some effort is constantly expanding.

The point here is that surgery and hormones are a tool for an effect, but they do not change who you truly are!  If others have difficulty with your appearance or behavior that is actually their issue not yours.  Continue being your authentic self and loving it!  Why? Because the other choices are just not any fun, at least not in the long run.

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity



Like a Reversible Sweater August 5, 2015

Human beings are like a reversible sweater.  They have both a man and a woman within each of them or if you prefer a feminine and a masculine.  This has nothing to do with sex which is nothing more than the physical aspect of the body.  It is time we started thinking of human life as multiphasic.  We each have many levels which shift and flow over time, some of us more than others of course.  Some never reverse their sweater and thus never get to know their full self.  Part of doing inner exploration is opening all the doors without fear and embracing what you find.  The spirit of acceptance without any preconceived ideas of what is proper or right is a must.  The idea of congruence must also be questioned.  Why do men have to have penises and women vaginas?  Like I said sex and reproduction is a whole other topic and at this stage of the game is becoming irrelevant with over 7 billion people on earth.  So let us move on beyond this primal need to replicate.  Instead let us get to know the self before we go about making more selves.

What I know is that there is much more to life than this concept of “me”.  I exist beyond this body and will always exist with or without the body I currently experience as “me”.  I am not “me”, nor am I “you”.  We are One.  The understanding of Oneness changes the entire game… it changes everything!  There is no “me” or “you”, only we.  Like a kaleidoscope of humanness we are constantly shifting and morphing, so to get stuck on one expression of this is a game ender.  The meaning we place on words is not fixed, but many think that it is.  You are not the “you” you believe yourself to be!!  Let it go.  And above all else stop trying to “fix” yourself.  We are here to discover (dis-cover) who we are, not to manipulate or manufacture a self (a false self).  Surgery, drugs, and other external methods just end up hiding the true self, the authentic self.  Please do not be drawn into this game of the “six-million dollar person”.  No other can make you better than you already are!  Love that which is the self.  In order to do this you must really get down and see yourself… look within, without expectations, fear, or limits.  Feel who you are… close your eyes and be not deceived.  Let the Journey begin… once again, for like all journeys they tend to repeat.


Taking Authenticity to the Next Level July 10, 2015

Filed under: Uncategorized — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 12:40 pm
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What does being authentic really mean?  Does it mean being your true self?  And if so, who is that?  The question “who am I” can be asked at any time because it is constantly changing… evolving.  So if we are constantly changing how can we ever really know who this authentic person is?  Perhaps this is about more than just a material existence as a body with a name, family, and history.  Perhaps we need to look deeper to find our answers.  Self-discovery is a life-long pursuit and evolves with each step on the path or layer removed from our onion.

I just took a long walk and the layers were falling right off!  These moments of clarity are so precious!  My connection to self has never been deeper or stronger.  Or felt so good.  These glimpses of heaven are what we live for.  They make it all worthwhile.  So take a deep breathe and relax.  Look deep within… not with your eyes but with your heart.  It is more like feeling, connecting, and imagining the beauty within.  Let us embark on a journey of discovery!

For me this starts with what many call the physical reality and what I call the dream within a dream.  My reality involves having a male body and a feminine soul.  My Spirit is beyond both of these dualities.  After years of contemplation I realize what I look like is such a small part of my being.  It is really not important at all.  What works best for me is an androgynous look, because this aligns with my inner feelings now.  My woman has revealed herself and for this I am grateful.  I can still honor my past appearances and know that it is what is on the inside that matters. (pun intended)   So what’s left after all the layers of the onion are removed?  The discovery continues, however I expect to find nothing.

Why would I say nothing?  Because as a pantheist I know God is all there is, there is nothing more… or less for that matter.  Anything we think or believe exists beyond the absolute are just that, dreams within a dream!  On a more practical level how does one cope with this reality?  The answer I have arrived at is acceptance.  Or as my Taoist teachers would say “Make everything Ok”.  Just be the observer, step back and let it all be.  Then know that you are what you observe, without attachment or judgment.  It is what it is and you are who you are, make this Ok.  There is no “supposed to be”, no expectations, no good or bad, no right or wrong.  There is what there is, be Ok with it.  Labels will limit your experience so avoid them when possible and if you cannot avoid them, embrace them, make them Ok.  I am that, I am!  (the name of God is my name, your name, and all there is)

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity


How Far to Take Your Transition June 12, 2015

How far to take your Transition

This is both an easy question to answer and a complicated one.  The short answer is as far as you wish.  The long answer includes the questions, Why am I doing this?  What is my end goal? And just Who am I?

Knowing your dreams and goals are key to success of any kind.  Transition is no different.  This is not about wants or even needs, but desires.  “Do not confuse desire with expectation, or with need. Desire has an entirely different quality to it. You can desire something without needing or requiring it. That little difference makes everything work. That little difference is the whole trick. Desire, do not Require. To desire propels. To require compels. Life will not be compelled, but it can be coaxed…” (Neale Donald Walsch)

The question of why is often a wild goose chase, however the ego seems to thrive on this question so answer it.  Why are you transitioning?   Be thorough in your answer too.  Think of every aspect of your life which motivates your actions.  Why do you feel incongruent?  Is this really it or are you making excuses now?  Life is an experience so feel the experience and make note of all those moments which elate you.  Focus on the good feelings, but do not get the idea this is what it is all about.

What is your end goal in transition and how important is it to succeed?  From my experience the end goal shifted as I transitioned.  I was not willing to do all it took to reach what I thought was my end goal.  The point here is I was influenced by my environment and as I grew in understanding my goals shifted.  This is a personal choice for each of us, so stick to your desires.  Hormones and Surgery are tools to enhance the experience, just remember they come at a high price (not only $$$ either).  There are no right ways to transition, only your way.

Ultimately transition comes down to expressing who you are, …if you can figure that out.  So just Who are YOU?  My experience tells me that I am not a body, but a Spiritual Being. So, on this level of form I am constantly changing.  Each day is a new day!!  Be on the lookout for cycles also.  Life moves in cycles and they tend to repeat.  Make everything Ok, meaning accept who you are in that particular moment and enjoy it.  While things tend to repeat it’s only because you need that lesson again.  This is a beautiful paradox.  You can do the same thing a 100 times and each experience is slightly different and yet the experiences we probably do not wish to repeat happen again and again unless you’re paying attention.  Did you catch that?  You are exactly where, who, and what you’re supposed to be in that moment.

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity





Gossip Trap May 26, 2015

Filed under: Spirituality — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 8:12 am
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Gossip is like a whirlpool in the ocean of consciousness, or it is like quicksand in the jungle of life. Whichever way of looking at it strikes a nerve, beware this most common enemy on the path to Joy.

Forgiveness is your protection from gossip, which basically means when someone starts to gossip you go into non-judgment mode.  You’re not agreeing with them or disagreeing; you don’t correct them, or disapprove.  You do your best to politely change the subject or walk away.  Sending them love is also appropriate, since what they really want is to feel better or to say that differently, it’s a cry for love.

Is there such a thing as positive gossip or inspirational gossip?  I believe there is.  Negativity comes wrapped in cute sheep skin, carrying pretty flowers, and covered in perfume.  Only later do you notice that you feel bad and in fact they have taken your energy.  Most of the purveyors of positive, inspirational gossip are well intentioned and do not even realize what they are doing.  Once again this is a cry for love, they are saying aren’t I cute, pretty, loveable?  And BAM, you come away feeling drained… because you were.

The bottom line here is how you are approaching life.  Are you looking for ways to give or ways to receive?  Do you look at life as “what’s in it for me?” or “what do I have to offer?”.  If it is the former you’ll be running into energy vampires all the time, because You are one!!  If instead you approach life saying “what do I have to offer?” or I have this to offer, how best can I do this, then you’ll attract positive and productive ways to contribute to the world.  Most importantly you’ll feel better.  The more you give the better you’ll feel too.  The only real way to know how you’re doing on the path is to notice how you feel.  Awareness is key on the Journey of Love (Joy, Peace, Love = God, Prime Creator, Great Spirit).

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity




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