How far to take your Transition
This is both an easy question to answer and a complicated one. The short answer is as far as you wish. The long answer includes the questions, Why am I doing this? What is my end goal? And just Who am I?
Knowing your dreams and goals are key to success of any kind. Transition is no different. This is not about wants or even needs, but desires. “Do not confuse desire with expectation, or with need. Desire has an entirely different quality to it. You can desire something without needing or requiring it. That little difference makes everything work. That little difference is the whole trick. Desire, do not Require. To desire propels. To require compels. Life will not be compelled, but it can be coaxed…” (Neale Donald Walsch)
The question of why is often a wild goose chase, however the ego seems to thrive on this question so answer it. Why are you transitioning? Be thorough in your answer too. Think of every aspect of your life which motivates your actions. Why do you feel incongruent? Is this really it or are you making excuses now? Life is an experience so feel the experience and make note of all those moments which elate you. Focus on the good feelings, but do not get the idea this is what it is all about.
What is your end goal in transition and how important is it to succeed? From my experience the end goal shifted as I transitioned. I was not willing to do all it took to reach what I thought was my end goal. The point here is I was influenced by my environment and as I grew in understanding my goals shifted. This is a personal choice for each of us, so stick to your desires. Hormones and Surgery are tools to enhance the experience, just remember they come at a high price (not only $$$ either). There are no right ways to transition, only your way.
Ultimately transition comes down to expressing who you are, …if you can figure that out. So just Who are YOU? My experience tells me that I am not a body, but a Spiritual Being. So, on this level of form I am constantly changing. Each day is a new day!! Be on the lookout for cycles also. Life moves in cycles and they tend to repeat. Make everything Ok, meaning accept who you are in that particular moment and enjoy it. While things tend to repeat it’s only because you need that lesson again. This is a beautiful paradox. You can do the same thing a 100 times and each experience is slightly different and yet the experiences we probably do not wish to repeat happen again and again unless you’re paying attention. Did you catch that? You are exactly where, who, and what you’re supposed to be in that moment.
Sequoia Elisabeth :-)