Transitions Blog

We all go through Transitions in one form or another

Taking Authenticity to the Next Level July 10, 2015

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What does being authentic really mean?  Does it mean being your true self?  And if so, who is that?  The question “who am I” can be asked at any time because it is constantly changing… evolving.  So if we are constantly changing how can we ever really know who this authentic person is?  Perhaps this is about more than just a material existence as a body with a name, family, and history.  Perhaps we need to look deeper to find our answers.  Self-discovery is a life-long pursuit and evolves with each step on the path or layer removed from our onion.

I just took a long walk and the layers were falling right off!  These moments of clarity are so precious!  My connection to self has never been deeper or stronger.  Or felt so good.  These glimpses of heaven are what we live for.  They make it all worthwhile.  So take a deep breathe and relax.  Look deep within… not with your eyes but with your heart.  It is more like feeling, connecting, and imagining the beauty within.  Let us embark on a journey of discovery!

For me this starts with what many call the physical reality and what I call the dream within a dream.  My reality involves having a male body and a feminine soul.  My Spirit is beyond both of these dualities.  After years of contemplation I realize what I look like is such a small part of my being.  It is really not important at all.  What works best for me is an androgynous look, because this aligns with my inner feelings now.  My woman has revealed herself and for this I am grateful.  I can still honor my past appearances and know that it is what is on the inside that matters. (pun intended)   So what’s left after all the layers of the onion are removed?  The discovery continues, however I expect to find nothing.

Why would I say nothing?  Because as a pantheist I know God is all there is, there is nothing more… or less for that matter.  Anything we think or believe exists beyond the absolute are just that, dreams within a dream!  On a more practical level how does one cope with this reality?  The answer I have arrived at is acceptance.  Or as my Taoist teachers would say “Make everything Ok”.  Just be the observer, step back and let it all be.  Then know that you are what you observe, without attachment or judgment.  It is what it is and you are who you are, make this Ok.  There is no “supposed to be”, no expectations, no good or bad, no right or wrong.  There is what there is, be Ok with it.  Labels will limit your experience so avoid them when possible and if you cannot avoid them, embrace them, make them Ok.  I am that, I am!  (the name of God is my name, your name, and all there is)

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

How Far to Take Your Transition June 12, 2015

How far to take your Transition

This is both an easy question to answer and a complicated one.  The short answer is as far as you wish.  The long answer includes the questions, Why am I doing this?  What is my end goal? And just Who am I?

Knowing your dreams and goals are key to success of any kind.  Transition is no different.  This is not about wants or even needs, but desires.  “Do not confuse desire with expectation, or with need. Desire has an entirely different quality to it. You can desire something without needing or requiring it. That little difference makes everything work. That little difference is the whole trick. Desire, do not Require. To desire propels. To require compels. Life will not be compelled, but it can be coaxed…” (Neale Donald Walsch)

The question of why is often a wild goose chase, however the ego seems to thrive on this question so answer it.  Why are you transitioning?   Be thorough in your answer too.  Think of every aspect of your life which motivates your actions.  Why do you feel incongruent?  Is this really it or are you making excuses now?  Life is an experience so feel the experience and make note of all those moments which elate you.  Focus on the good feelings, but do not get the idea this is what it is all about.

What is your end goal in transition and how important is it to succeed?  From my experience the end goal shifted as I transitioned.  I was not willing to do all it took to reach what I thought was my end goal.  The point here is I was influenced by my environment and as I grew in understanding my goals shifted.  This is a personal choice for each of us, so stick to your desires.  Hormones and Surgery are tools to enhance the experience, just remember they come at a high price (not only $$$ either).  There are no right ways to transition, only your way.

Ultimately transition comes down to expressing who you are, …if you can figure that out.  So just Who are YOU?  My experience tells me that I am not a body, but a Spiritual Being. So, on this level of form I am constantly changing.  Each day is a new day!!  Be on the lookout for cycles also.  Life moves in cycles and they tend to repeat.  Make everything Ok, meaning accept who you are in that particular moment and enjoy it.  While things tend to repeat it’s only because you need that lesson again.  This is a beautiful paradox.  You can do the same thing a 100 times and each experience is slightly different and yet the experiences we probably do not wish to repeat happen again and again unless you’re paying attention.  Did you catch that?  You are exactly where, who, and what you’re supposed to be in that moment.

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

 

 

 

Gossip Trap May 26, 2015

Filed under: Spirituality — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 8:12 am
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Gossip is like a whirlpool in the ocean of consciousness, or it is like quicksand in the jungle of life. Whichever way of looking at it strikes a nerve, beware this most common enemy on the path to Joy.

Forgiveness is your protection from gossip, which basically means when someone starts to gossip you go into non-judgment mode.  You’re not agreeing with them or disagreeing; you don’t correct them, or disapprove.  You do your best to politely change the subject or walk away.  Sending them love is also appropriate, since what they really want is to feel better or to say that differently, it’s a cry for love.

Is there such a thing as positive gossip or inspirational gossip?  I believe there is.  Negativity comes wrapped in cute sheep skin, carrying pretty flowers, and covered in perfume.  Only later do you notice that you feel bad and in fact they have taken your energy.  Most of the purveyors of positive, inspirational gossip are well intentioned and do not even realize what they are doing.  Once again this is a cry for love, they are saying aren’t I cute, pretty, loveable?  And BAM, you come away feeling drained… because you were.

The bottom line here is how you are approaching life.  Are you looking for ways to give or ways to receive?  Do you look at life as “what’s in it for me?” or “what do I have to offer?”.  If it is the former you’ll be running into energy vampires all the time, because You are one!!  If instead you approach life saying “what do I have to offer?” or I have this to offer, how best can I do this, then you’ll attract positive and productive ways to contribute to the world.  Most importantly you’ll feel better.  The more you give the better you’ll feel too.  The only real way to know how you’re doing on the path is to notice how you feel.  Awareness is key on the Journey of Love (Joy, Peace, Love = God, Prime Creator, Great Spirit).

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

 

How is my Transition Serving Mankind? May 19, 2015

Filed under: Gender Related,Spirituality — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 10:30 am
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How is my transition serving mankind?  And if it is not serving then why do it?

Gender transition comes in as many different flavors as there are people transitioning.  The standing authorities from WPATH as well as others say that CHT, contra-hormone therapy and GRS, genital realignment surgery are the best way to treat Gender Dysphoria.  My response to this is perhaps on a superficial and purely material plane, but we are not just animals or bodies.  We are multi-dimensional beings – Spiritual Beings who are having a human experience!

Metaphysics teaches us that we have a body at each level of the Chakra system. So gender transition is something we encounter in forth body. Before this it is incomprehensible and thus the reaction we get from so many others.  “The first four bodies and their chakras were split into two. The duality ends with the fifth body.  As I said before, the difference between male and female lasts until the fourth body; after that it ends. If we observe very closely all duality belongs to the male and the female. Where the distance between male and female is no more, at that very point all duality ceases. The fifth body is nondual. It does not have two possibilities but only one.” (Osho, The Seven Bodies and the Seven Chakras).

So from this we discover that Gender Dysphoria is simply a longing for Fifth Body.  It is our realization of non-duality!  It is not to be fixed then, but celebrated!  As we move from one point to another there is always an in between.  This can be uncomfortable and even painful.  However once you realize what is happening that you are only in between two points which on the human level are far apart the journey becomes easier and even fascinating.

My original question which started this blog has now morphed into a realization that transition does not serve mankind directly but only through the individual as they realize their oneness and find non-duality.  The why is simple then, because to get there we must go thru here.  The why is simply it is on the path.  There is no right or wrong way to get where you are going, so don’t fret over details like should I have surgery or not.  Do what feels best at the time and trust what the Universe offers up.  If you are meant to do something then the resources will be made manifest.  And if they do not appear it means all is well as it is.  We call this Faith.

Love n Light,

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

 

Fate or No May 4, 2015

Filed under: Spirituality — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 9:57 am
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Fate or no fate? This is the question.  Just how much “choice” do you have in your life?  If you believe all the New Age prophets and teachers it is all up to you.  Everything in life is your choice.  So if you have been following my blog you’ll know I love to question reality.  At this point in my life I have had enough experience to really compare and contrast events, to test theories, and to come to my own conclusions.  So let me share my conclusion on Fate.

First let me tell you an abbreviated story of my youth.  I am tall, always have been, so in elementary school I was adult size as a child.  This excited the basketball coach who was quite zealous in recruiting me for his team.  I tried it and hated it.  I come from a family of non-athletes.  It was not something that interested me.  But this decision was not up to me or even my parents.  The coach quite literally forced me to play thru fear and guilt, so I played and thus began that phase of my life, which did not end till after dropping out of college two years early.  Looking back on it, many good things came from my suffering, so there are no regrets, but the question still remains. Is this fate?

This story has repeated a few times in my life now, so this has led to this blog.  Who is making these decisions that vastly affect my life?  Is it the animal human me or some higher Spiritual me?  Or is it someone else entirely?  Who is “I”?

The answer will surprise some, but many who read my blog know exactly where this is going.  The “I” who makes these decisions is not the person living this little life here on Earth, but the Higher Spiritual Self (HSS) who exists beyond this world.  If you think about it, nothing else makes sense.  Not even the Distant God idea that so many religions teach.

The fact is we exist on many levels and each corresponds to the Chakras.  The beings on Earth exist on the lower levels, the first three chakras.  Our HSS exists somewhere else, but still connected here.  The HSS corresponds to the higher three chakras and the 4th or center chakra is the connection point between the two which make up the human body.  There are higher chakras but do not apply to this discussion, unless they do, so suffice it to say I will not be discussing these.

The way Stephen Davis describes it is we are the (i) little and the HSS is the (I) big.  Eckhart Tolle describes it as the ego vs. the Spirit.  Many advanced teachers describe this in various ways and once you grasp it this is easy to see.  Going back now to our original question.

It is the (I) Big who really chooses our path.  The (i) little is the one who experiences it and either accepts it (making the path smoother) or resists it (making the path painful).  So the moral to the story is simple, ‘Resistance is Futile’ and ‘What you resist persists’! Resistance is also what makes life painful. Acceptance has really been my topic these last few blogs and for good reason.  While many have been opening up and accepting their fate, many have not (thus the riots and unrest).

A good place to end this blog is a heart centered meditation.  Remember the heart chakra is where and how the two connect.  When the heart is open everything flows in harmony because the (i) little is communicating with the (I).  For more on this meditation please check out http://sequoiablessed.info/page70.  With some focus and practice the heart is opened and harmony takes over your life.  A big part of life is learning to trust the (I) big, know that it is love, and will never hurt you or put you in harm’s way.

Love n Light,

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

 

I am as God created me! April 30, 2015

Filed under: Gender Related,Spirituality — Sequoia Elisabeth @ 10:11 am
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I am as God created me!  So why are you feeling dysphoria?  Why do you think there is something wrong with you?  (too fat, too tall, wrong genitalia, wrong hair color or eye color, etc, etc.)  The imperfections are not of God’s making.  The imperfections and the feelings of incongruence (dysphoria) come from the Ego.  Allow me to explain this world to you.

This physical world we live in here is the creation of the Ego Mind, the aspect of you which believes itself separate from God.  In truth this world is a dream and often it is a dream within a dream!  It does not matter how many ‘echos’ of the One which are created, the point is there is only One and this one is God, the all there is.  If you love movies, theatre, or story-telling then you know dreams… this life you think you are living is no more real than the stories you experience on TV, Movies, Theatre, or a story-telling stage.  What makes it seem so real?  Ego mind!

Adam and Eve are the original Ego story, not that they are real either.  This Ego is an aspect of God which wished to see what separate means and so created a separate world, this world where we sit today, or seem to sit today.  In reality no one has gone anywhere!  We are all still in the loving arms of God, yet asleep and dreaming of life.

As the Course in Miracles states, the dream was but a second or flash and all that is or was or will be happened and we returned to God.  The “reality” we experience now is simply an echo of this dream, thus the dream within a dream…

The next question then is how do we awaken from this dream?  First of all by understanding who “I” is.  These pesky pronouns are very confusing!  I, me, you, us, we, they are simply different aspect of the One.  Please understand there is only ONE.  The delusion is that you are separate from me and that they exist at all!

This probably seems farfetched and from the perspective of the Ego mind it is.  Step back from this perspective and see through the eyes of Holy Spirit, feel through Holy Spirit.  It may take a while so don’t be in a rush.  I have been working in this for years.  The Truth becomes clearer every day though, so I keep the Faith and move forward.  This takes us to the next step, acceptance.

Accept things as they seem (even though we know otherwise).  Imagine you are a character in a movie.  Can that character get out of the movie?  Not hardly; they must play their part to the end.  So why not enjoy your part/role in this elaborate story of life!  It is much better than choosing misery.  Be the best you (whatever your role is at the time) and Shine!

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

ps. If you would like to read more on this, I highly recommend Butterflies Fly for Free by Stephen Davis, as well as A Course in Miracles (ACIM).

 

 

 

Transgender Journey about Acceptance April 18, 2015

The transgender journey is really about acceptance, both your acceptance of yourself and others acceptance of you.  The second one is a gauge to let you know how you are doing on the first one.  Being self-loving is not the same thing as being self-serving or self-centered.  In fact they are totally different.

How can this be?  Very simply, we are one.  There is only One self… The Self.  By accepting and loving your self you are in fact accepting and loving all selves.  Don’t worry it does not mean you are approving of the self that murders or rapes.  You are just accepting them for who they are with a knowing that they are one possibility. Right and wrong are just human concepts.  We are each an expression of the whole, a slice of a very large pie.  Love it all!!

I ask that you contemplate this reality.  You are you and I am me and we are One!  Being transgender is just one expression of the whole and even this has a multitude of expressions just as being a heterosexual white male does.  Don’t let appearances fool you either.  Just because you may see a woman, they may see a man or you may read them as gay and they identify as pansexual.  You may think of them as a nice person, when they have done horrible things no one knows about thus thinking of themselves as a monster.  Love it all.

What it comes down to is Mind.  You’ve heard the expressions “never mind” or “I don’t mind”.  This is precisely so!  We exist in mind.  The material world we experience is a projection of this mind. (read Butterflies are Free to Fly by Stephen Davis and see the Holographic Universe video series for more on this)  So the acceptance is about accepting what the mind has created and making it all OK.  Some would call this forgiveness, so forgive it all.  None of it is “real”, so don’t worry there are no Ultimate consequences only temporary consequences to our actions.  Karma is real in the world of matter, so yes your actions do matter. (Pun intended)

If this blog confuses you then no worries, it confused me at first too.  Be curious and inquisitive.  The answer to your question is there… under that spot you prefer not to look.  Don’t be afraid, it is OK to peek in there.  You may be surprised at the wonder you find.  I am.

Love n Light,

Sequoia Elisabeth :-)

Unity in Gender Diversity

 

 

 
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