Life is a gift. What are you going to make of it? It is not like you were only dealt five cards. You have the entire deck in a certain order and it is up to you how you play them. There is an order to life because it is built on past lives and inherited traits. Think of it as a journey. A Journey of Love.
The choices are endless. You can go anywhere you like and do anything you choose. The price (consequences) will vary. By now you have discovered the ripple effects of your actions, so choose consciously. This is like being careful but with added consideration of all factors. Or at least as many as you can be aware of.
The transgender journey can be quite the challenge; however it is my belief that it is also a great gift. Purpose lay behind every choice and every action. Do you know the purpose of your journey? I can only really speak of my journey because yours will be slightly different or possibly greatly different. I am here to make the most of what I have been given.
I was born male with a woman’s brain. My body is quite tall and large in the proper proportions for a giant. These are my cards. I still have the deck, but these are the cards showing. For many years I played the male cards and lived a superficial life, what you see is what you get! This all changed five years ago. I dealt new cards from the deck and now I play the woman cards. The male cards have been placed back in the deck.
The question many of us face is do we trade the male cards in for female cards. Is surgery to create the facade of female a viable option? Many believe it is, however I hesitate because it seems a denial of who I am. I was given these cards for a reason. Have I made the most of them? When the time comes I can just deal again or even trade this deck in for a new one (ending this lifecycle).
It seems to me the purpose of it all is to accept yourself as you are, not to change the game! It is about Loving all that you are no matter the cards dealt. This is done through the actions you take and the choices you make. I see people with no legs walking on prosthetics. Are they not meant to stay in one place? Or is it about doing what they do and not copying others just because they are walking. Do they deny their gift by using prosthetics? It is like slipping a card up your sleeve or cheating fate. Or is it? They have made the choice to exceed their limitations and make new choices and we all have that privilege. It can be done in Love and acceptance or in denial and disgust. Without Love there is no progress and in fact it would be going backwards.
Ultimately the journey is yours and how you play the game is up to you. Love and acceptance are necessary ingredients. Remember that it is not about winning or losing but how you play that makes the difference. Anything done from Love and acceptance is a win! Just because others are doing things a certain way does not make it right for you. The choice is yours. We all are a part of the same puzzle, so there is no way not to fit in; this is the beauty of life. Accept your place (card deck) and make it shine!