What is this thing called transition and why do I care? The basic term is fairly simple and broad in meaning. It simply means a change from one state of being to another. The key word here is being. This is a state of being not doing. Doing is not involved in transition. There is nothing you can “do” to transition. As you be that which you are, that which you are reveals itself.
Once you think about this for a few minutes you will realize the profoundness of this statement. I will repeat it so you can get your head around this, there is nothing you can “do” to transition! It matters not what type of transition you are experiencing either. The transition can be gender related, work related, life style related or whatever. Transition is about being, not doing. This can appear to be shifting, and you may have different experiences and points of view, but your essence does not change.
Mahatma Gandhi is quoted as saying, “Be the change you desire to see in the world”. So what does this mean? It means that your state of being is a product of your desires. If you are being a woman then you are one and what you “do” follows this. If you move to a new home far away does this change your state of being? If you wear the clothes of the opposite sex does this change who you are being?
What I am saying here is transition involves a lot more than just changing your behavior, location or circumstances. Transition is a change in being-ness at the very core of who you are. As an example the transgender community often talks about all the physical changes involved, but rarely do they discuss the deep inner changes required to fully transition. Getting SRS or Breast augmentation does not change who you are or who you are being!
Cis-gender women and men rarely even consider their gender, because it is a perfectly natural state of being to them. To a transgender person however their state of being seems off and they desire to change or transition to a state that is harmonious. In order to fully transition then a person must change from one state of being to another.
Gender Transition is more than changing appearances; it is an awareness of the inner self and then simply being it. The exterior conforms to the state of being. This comes back to what we discussed earlier, As above so below. (see last blog) The physical, mental, and spiritual are connected and as one changes the others follow. This happens in the order of Spiritual, Mental and then Physical. This means that it is not a conscious choice to change genders, but it is a Spiritual one!