The usual course of transition for a Male to Female (MtoF) Transgender is to first dress as a woman and to socialize with peers prior to taking the major step of CHT (Contra-Hormone Therapy). (HRT is hormone replacement therapy and since transition is about change and not replacement this term does not apply to the trans journey). Socializing as a woman is very different than as a man so getting used to that aspect is greatly beneficial in both determining if you desire to progress (going full time) and gaining the skills necessary to be successful. Many things will come naturally because they are innate such as mannerisms, emotional behavior including needs and desires, and mental processes. The learned traits may not be natural such as movement, social expectations and relationships. Gender transition is basically the process of breaking down learned “male” persona and allowing the natural female self to emerge. This will be easy for some; however, it is a big road block for most. Only 5% of those who attempt transition fully complete the journey from male to female; the larger percentage end up somewhere in between, which for many is perfectly acceptable and may in fact have been the goal all along.
It is important to be patient with the transition process and allow these things to occur naturally through counseling, feminine coaching, and voice therapy. A skilled gender therapist/counselor guides the path and provides a third person perspective to facilitate getting in touch with the authentic self. The feminine coach is valuable in helping to get in touch with feminine energy and develop its expression. I must say the first time I felt my feminine energy vs. my masculine energy it was a revelation! Being aware of the body’s energy and what it projects is very important. To truly express feminine energy do not project energy instead simply center in the divine feminine and this energy will attract others. I have posted a link on the transgender links page of Unity in Gender Diversity to The Yin Project. The feminine coaching here is highly recommended.
Voice therapy is vital to MtoF transition. Start this process as soon as possible, even before transitioning if you are planning that far ahead. I also recommend getting electrolysis started as soon as possible and depending on your age, I recommend doing laser first to clear the dark hairs and let the electrologist focus on the light hairs. It will take 6-10 laser treatments. Don’t let the electrologist tell you that laser is not permanent because I know that it is from experience. There is a page on this website that goes over the whole process of transition planning. Expect laser to work and with the proper hormone regimen the face is the only area that needs treatment unless you are unusually hairy and I know that some men are. Not to worry, this is a part of the journey, so plan for it.
The hormones do a remarkable job of reducing body hair and stopping male pattern hair loss. Find a doctor who specializes in CHT for transgender/transsexual persons, because doing this yourself or using a doctor with little or no experience is inviting failure. Getting periodic lab testing done to monitor liver function and other factors is vital to maintain a healthy transition. Plus working with a skilled professional assures the desired results. It can be done on your own, but that is contrary to what this whole journey is about in my opinion, which is to fully and completely experience the transition. This journey can be lethal so take it very seriously!
Many transgender/transsexual persons want to jump straight to the result and if that was meant to be then don’t you think you would have been female from birth? I can hear all the opinions flying as I write this which is great, remember this is from my experience and if you desire a different experience then make it so.
Surgery is a step that many desire and is the only known successful method of treating severe gender dysphoria. It is not for everyone though and will be addressed in the next blog. So stay tuned